Conservative Talk Radio: Is Saying Something Just for the SHOCK Value Irresponsible Radio, Freedom of Speech or Both? Your Thoughts? Here Are Mine…

Conservative Talk Radio: Is Saying Something Just for the SHOCK Value Irresponsible Radio, Freedom of Speech or Both? Your Thoughts? Here Are Mine…

The right of free speech is perhaps the most cherished of the rights spelled out in our Constitution. Yet, as many are prone to forget, with rights come responsibilities, and in many instances the current cadre of conservative radio talk show hosts is not living up to those responsibilities. Bill Handel refers to women as, “Dumb Ass Women” while discussing Kansas’ new abortion law.  Rush Limbaugh called Georgetown law student Sandra Fluke a “slut” and a “prostitute.” Or his statement to one of his callers arguing that black people need to be heard, “They are 12 percent of the population, who the hell cares?” John Kobylt and Ken Chiampou referred to Whitney Houston as a “crack ho”.  Don Imus referred to the Rutgers Women’s Basketball team as “Nappy Headed Hos”. Michael Savage bashes children, gays and immigrants. What happened to common respect? When did it become OK to demonize those with whom we disagree?

There is a very thin line between freedom of speech and hate speech. In many cases, talk radio has crossed that line and should be held accountable. We should not support any company that sponsors irresponsible or disrespectful or hateful programming. With all this being said, just because one dislikes what is said ought not to eliminate the process of free speech. Let them die a natural death. Irresponsible talk shows will eventually lose listeners to more credible sources, leading to a loss of sponsorship. Don't call in! Don't turn them on! Protest to advertisers! I see no danger in people exercising their freedom of speech. Talk radio, as far as I can see, reflects the passions of common men and women. Whether we like it or not, it is a barometer of how people feel.

Good Talk Shows stimulate and exercise an intelligent person's mind and can sometimes open the eyes of previously misled people. They stir up interest in public issues. The good talk shows can shed light on social and public concerns. They can make people think about critical issues and problems in our society - and decide where they stand on an issue. I believe that talk radio provides a valuable service with regard to public debate. It gives many people who feel disenfranchised the chance to express their views. Talk shows are a symptom of the disease, not the cause. We have to look elsewhere to change the morality of our society. Shutting down Host like Rush and Beck won't change a thing.

People have to take responsibility for their “Mike”. It’s not just about an apology anymore…it’s about changing a mindset. We Americans are justifiably proud of our constitutionally protected right of free speech - and I doubt that any of us wish to impinge on that right even when some are mocking that great document. That's our legal right, but what about our morality?

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Cullen's Corner Question of the Day, “Are Boyfriend’s & Girlfriend’s Fair game? Are You Still Considered “Single” Till You Are Married?” Your Thoughts? Here Are Mine...

You are in a club, at a party, at a get together or a Greek picnic. You see someone you are VERY attracted to so to walk up to them and strike up a conversation. Conversation is great, they are pleasing to the eye, the flirting is off the chain, they seem to have things going for themselves…At this point you have already made the decision that you want her number or you want to give him your number and ask them out for coffee, lunch or dinner so you can get to know them better but the next words out of their mouth is that they have a “Boyfriend/Girlfriend”. What do you do or say next? What have you done or said in the past? I’m sure each and every one of you have come across this situation. Did you just end the conversation and walk away or did you think to yourself, “He/She ain’t here with you now!” or “They aren’t married so you snooze you lose!”

What does being a boyfriend or girlfriend REALLY mean these days? Do they still say Boyfriend or Girlfriend? If not, what do you call it? Does it mean that you are exclusive or dating and a free agent? Does a non-married relationship have the same kind of binding power that a married relationship have? Should the term “Cheating” only refer to extra-marital affairs because if you aren’t married, who are you “Cheating” on? Some feel to use the term “Cheating” is a little extreme if you're not bound to each other by marriage. If you’re not monogamous then what constitutes cheating? Some fill that until you “Put a Ring on Her Finger” and walk down that aisle that you both are still free agents, single and fair game! Is it always easier to steal a dude's girlfriend, a Chick’s boyfriend, than it is to keep your own?

If you were to get into a “Relationship” with someone should you want to make it clear that you don't do open relationships and if they want to be with you, then it's only with you? Please note and this is VERY important, just because one has had sex with someone does not necessarily mean they are now "a couple". Perhaps instead of 'asking' a guy/girl if they want to be exclusive, you should determine first if YOU do! Maybe state such on your profile.

In my experience, failed relationships are almost never just one person’s fault, but rather the result of breakdowns in or the complete absence of communication. If both people know what they want and can clearly and concisely relay that information to their partner, things will to go much more smoothly.

So my advice?

Step 1: Determine if exclusivity is what you want.

Step 2: Make sure to let dates/potential Boyfriend’s/Girlfriend’s (or whatever you want to call it) know what it is, precisely, you want.

Step 3: If someone cannot, or will not, provide what it is you seek, END IT! Let them know that you are ENDING it, and move on!

If you want a relationship to have sex, you should say so. If you want the relationship to be exclusive you should say so. If you want the sex to be exclusive you should say so.

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Join Cullen's Corner Radio Show Hot Topics with Cullen and the Corner Crew (Yvette Berry, Winnie Phillips, Lamont L. Belton, Nakia Thomas & Dee Page) TONIGHT at 9:00cst as they discuss this week's hot topics!

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1. Cullen's Corner Letter of the Day, Dear Corner, How Do I Handle My Daughter Coming Out? Is She Sexually Confused?

2. Are Blacks Prejudice Against Their Own Race?

3. Winnie Phillips asks,  Are you still celibate if you're engaging in every form of sexual activity except intercourse? What is your definition of sex and celibacy?

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Winnie Phillips asks, Are you still celibate if you're engaging in every form of sexual activity except intercourse? What is your definition of sex and celibacy? What are your thoughts? Here's Her's

Picture this Family:

Two people kissing, touching and tasting all over each others bodies. Now imagine that this has been going on for at least an hour. Then one of them say's "stop" (it doesn't matter who). They both stop and nothing more happens because they both agreed not to have sex until they were both ready (or married). They just say "I love you" and hold each other until morning. I know what you're thinking. If they're doing all that then they may as well go all the way and not hold back.

My question to you is this:

Would you be able to handle it if your girlfriend/boyfriend said that she/he wanted to wait to have sex, but was willing to do other things to please you? Or, would not having sex within the relationship be reason enough for you to bounce? Or, would you just get sex somewhere else and not tell your girlfriend/boyfriend? HMMMMMM...... If it were me, I would be alright with being pleased in other ways and would wait until we were both ready to have sex even if that meant waiting until we were married.

Let's define what sex and celibacy means. The dictionary defines sexual intercourse as: 1) Heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis. 2) Intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that doesn't involve the penetration of the vagina by the penis. The dictionary definition of celibacy is 1) The state of being not married. 2a) abstention from sexual intercourse. b) abstention by vow from marriage.

Yes, there are different forms of sexual activity such as fellatio, cunnilingus and mutual masturbation. However, from my point of view, all of that is just affection and foreplay that is not followed by intercourse. From my perspective, if there is no penetration then it's not sex and you're still celibate.

Many will probably disagree with this and say that any form sexual behavior is sex and that you're not celibate. And, that's okay because everyone defines sex differently. A very public example is the President Clinton and Monica Lewinsky scandal. To quote President Clinton, "I did not have sexual relations with that woman". Well, something happened because the evidence was all over her blue dress. To me this situation was more about infidelity...

THAT'S What Winnie Said!

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Cullen's Corner Letter of the Day,"Dear Corner, How Do I Handle My Daughter “Coming Out”? Is She Sexually Confused?”

Corner Family, I need your help. This weekend my 17 year old daughter informed me that she thinks that she is gay and has been dating both boys and girls without our knowledge for the past year. She says that she wants to get married and have kids one day but right now she wants to explore the attraction that she has with girls. To say that I was caught off guard would be putting it lightly. I assured her there is nothing that she could do to lose our love and support, and after listening to her explanations, I honestly think that this is a phase that she going through.

Here is our dilemma; her father is very conservative and I don’t think that He will react favorably to hearing this news. We are also very active in our church. Our daughter sings in the choir and volunteers with the children’s church. She wants permission to bring whoever she is dating home and to family functions the same way that her older sister and brother are allowed to do, but I am torn about whether or not we should even consider this because I feel that this is just a phase.

Corner, I would never in a million years have imagined that I would be in this torn up about it considering that we have many homosexual friends and have always been very supportive of them personally and legislatively. I am embarrassed that this is such a big deal to me but this is our daughter, my baby girl, and I never imagined that she would choose this for herself.

How do I handle this revelation, Corner? Should I tell her to keep her sexual proclivities private until she is clear about whether she wants to be with men or women? Should we even tell her father even though he will be crushed? Should we allow her to bring her friend who is a “stud” to our home and around our friends? I do not want to mishandle this nor risk making our child feel unloved or unsupported. Please help us.

Signed: What Should I Say…What Should I Do..

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Dear “What Should I Do…What Should I Say”,

Nothing is unhealthier for you and your daughter than denial and avoidance.  No matter how hard it may be to talk about it, you must talk about it. One of the worst things you can do is question them about her conclusion or tell her that that she is wrong or it is a “Faze”. If they are gay they have felt this all along. You have no idea how long your own child has been asking herself this question. If she has finally told you, it is because she feels that she is no longer confused. She has finally come to an uncomfortable, but profound understanding of her sexual identity. She is not stupid. She knows the shame and rejection she will face from society and especially her father. She knows what the church says about homosexuality. Nobody risks banishment, humiliation, and even physical harm to express mere confusion. It is the inescapable certainty that has brought her to the point of risking everything by telling you her "shameful" secret.

When it comes to sexual orientation, you can rebuke and reproach it; you can revile and refute it; you can resist and repent of it; but you can't reverse it. It is there to stay. So what do you say?  “I love you”,  “You’re still my child”,  “I’ll be right by your side”,  “How can I help you in this?”,  “What do you need from me?” These are all honest affirmations that you can respond with to your daughter.  Basically, you want to let her know two things: you love her and you’re here if she needs you. You just need to show her that you love her regardless of her sexual orientation. That she can always come home and that it is a safe haven to be if she needs it. At times, for many people all they see is a gay person. For you, and your husband, all you should still see is your daughter.

PFLAG (www.pflag.org) can help parents through to acceptance. Check their site for a chapter near you.  Love is the best remedy regardless of gender, race or religious affiliation. Gender, Race, Religion, Choice and Willfulness have nothing to do with who does and does not become homosexual. Those who are gay have no more choice over their sexual preferences than those who are heterosexual.

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Ta’Keisha Violet Ryan is asking the Cullen’s Corner Question of the Day, “Is the institution of marriage dying?” Your Thoughts? Here’s ours…

More often than not I’m hearing horror stories about people I thought were happily married. People got married then found out the husband/wife was cheating. They caught an STD from the husband/wife. They’re getting divorced after a year of marriage. What’s going on? Are people not taking marriage seriously? Are they getting married just because they want to have a wedding? Are they falling out of love? Are they doing it for the sake of the children? Is it best to not get married at all and just date for the rest of your life? Does happily ever after really exist? Maybe someone that has gone through this can shed a little light on the situation.

**Now I know every marriage doesn’t have these problems nor end in divorce. I'm asking about those that do. I posted this topic in my status about a month ago and received a lot of feedback from both sides.**

What do you think Cullen and Corner Family?

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Great Question Tootie! I believe in marriage and all it stands for. I also believe for far too many believe that marriages are disposable. Some treat marriage like they are dating and as soon as they get tired they get out. It’s amazing how marriage seems to work so easily for some couples yet can be a disaster for others.


If statistics show that marriage as an institution is dying we have to realize that statistics do not always reflect the true picture. If, for instance, the failure rate is set at 1 in 3 than the other side of the picture is that 2 in 3 marriages work. We then have to add the number of cohabiting, unrecorded relationships that are happy and enduring and which are a marriage in every sense of the word.


I believe that Marriage is a sacrament first and an institution recognized by the government for legal purposes second. Marriage will never die out in that sense. However, the declining number of marriages is due to the powerful hold of popular culture on modern society. It is projected that being unmarried is more convenient and less limiting, allowing for the more carefree lifestyle that pop culture promotes.

Marriage today is definitely not the same as it was 10...20...30 years ago. People don't fight because they treat their marriages like they treat any regular relationship. I say just because it doesn't work for others..or just because it didn't work for you the first time doesn't mean that marriage can't work in today's society!! I believe in the institution of Marriage and it is definitely NOT dying. Marriage may be a struggle and it may be work, but love is easy if it's true!


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Cullen's Corner Question of the Day, "Are Blacks Prejudice Against Their Own Race?" Your Thoughts? Here’s Mine…

Ever hear these comments:

I will not go to a black doctor

I don’t like black waiters or waitresses

I don’t like black customers because they don’t tip

Ghetto black people make me nervous

I don’t like going to a black owned business because they don’t know the meaning of customer service.

Or these comments:

She is pretty for being so dark skinned.

Don’t stay out in the sun too long!

If you're white, you're right. If you're brown, stick around. If you're black, stay back."

Believe it or not these comments do not come from white bigoted white people but from blacks themselves! Let’s talk about the first type of prejudice and that is towards black businesses and neighborhood in general. 

What’s MY price? I’ve know you for years where’s my “Hook Up”? I’m sure you are familiar with it. It’s when you receive an item or service at a vastly discounted price or even for free. It’s the attitude that makes one believe, “Hey, I’m black like you so I deserve a break”. What does that say when people do this? Have you ever done this or have had it done to you? To me it says they are cheap, unappreciative and could care less about the time, effort, material, labor, etc required so the business owner can earn a decent living but they would NEVER say that to a white owner! Why is this the case? What about those black businesses or waiter/waitresses that don’t understand what “Customer Service” is but still expect you to patronize them or tip them for lousy service? What does this say? Or those servers that hate serving black people because they “Never Tip”! Can you relate to this?

Or what about those who simply feel that they “Can’t Relate” to black people and they are black themselves? They feel that blacks are loud, obnoxious and ghetto and they feel out of sorts around them.

Light Skin vs Dark Skin Blacks:

The whole and light and dark issue in African American communities has formed a new type of prejudice. Colorism is a topic that needs to be talked about more in the Black community and in the media. While many blacks do not discriminate against each other by color this attitude is not unique. The fact that blacks often treat other blacks differently, based on the shade of their skin, is an open secret in the black community. Can Colorism and racism be compared to each other? Historians say the friction between blacks of different shades began during slavery because light-skinned blacks, often the children of slaves and their white masters, got better treatment.

Lighter skin began to be associated with privilege and it became associated with beauty. The Bon Ton Society and the Blue Vein Society were formed and applicants had to be fair enough so the blue veins on their skin were visible. Fraternities and churches would use the paper bag test. If the skin of an applicant was darker than the bag, he or she couldn't join. Sometimes, a fine-toothed comb was hung at the door. If one's hair snagged in the comb, entry was denied. (Straight hair was often regarded as "good hair" -- as opposed to tightly curled hair -- often associated with lighter skin.)

Animosity had to grow out of that unfair relationship. Darker-skinned blacks began to resent light-skinned blacks who were given opportunities to succeed. Race is an illusion, but racism is real. People are beautiful regardless of skin tone so why so much self hate?

We have to start supporting our black businesses more without looking for a handout and businesses need to give the same customer service to blacks as they do their white customers! With so many other things going on externally that affect the black race; it is a darn shame that our own people are causing each other unnecessary mental anguish. Black folks have to realize that whether you are light or dark skinned, the white man still categorizes you the same.

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