This is a question I’ve been asking for years. It has been a question for me because it is mainly married men who pursue me. I’m not just talking about simple sexual affairs. Its way more complicated than that. I am talking about men who actively pursue and date other women while they’re married. Over the years I have personally known men who do this (and their wives). I would run into them at the club, at restaurants, the grocery store and almost never see them with the same woman (including their wife). I had one friend who had and apartment on the other side of town he rented with three of his married buddies that the wives supposedly knew nothing about. By the way, I was in very awkward situations when I saw their wives because I knew what was up.
One day I had a conversation with my married but actively dating friends about their behavior. The consensus was that one woman could never satisfy all their needs on an emotional or sexual level. They all said that they loved their wives, but that love wasn’t always enough to keep them satisfied. They basically date other women to get whatever they are missing at home. I asked why they just didn’t stay single. They all said that there were benefits to marriage such as financial stability, always having someone in their corner and companionship. I found it interesting that none of them said that they married for love. One friend confessed that he has had a girlfriend in another state and that she was his girlfriend long before he met his wife. I asked him why he didn’t marry her. He said “she wasn’t wife material”, but likes how he feels when he’s around her. It was a feeling that he couldn’t put into words.
For me all of this is an issue of COMMUNICATION. If you are not getting what you need from your wife then you need to TALK to her about what you’re missing in the marriage. She probably is not even aware that she not meeting your needs. Give your WIFE a chance to fill the void VS looking for someone else to fill it. Side note: I’ve known some married women who engage in the same behavior. The same applies to them too.
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